Adult ADHD Therapy in California

Much of your life, people have thought you pretty much had it together. You are appreciated for your perspective, creativity, and strength under pressure. Underneath, you’ve suspected something is wrong with you— things that seem to come easy to others seem to take you extra time and effort. For years you have struggled with management of time, logistics, project completion, habit breaking, procrastination, and perfectionism. You sometimes wonder if you just don’t try hard enough, or you don’t care as much as you think you do about the people and the goals that matter to you.

You have tried neurotypical techniques for making change but none of them worked for long and some just left you feeling overwhelmed and inadequate from the start. Some new systems can be exciting for a day or two, then you lose steam. You’re beginning to think this is how things will always be, that your life will always be chaotic, and putting things off then panicking is just the way you get things done. Now that you have leveled up to bigger roles and responsibilities, the hidden difficulties have gotten harder to manage and getting by just under the wire isn’t working anymore.

Something needs to change.

Those closest to you know how hard it is to keep the details of your life in balance, and sometimes the stress of it all affects your partner(s), your friendships, your kids, your rest, and your health. It’s hard to show the true face of your struggle to an outside world that might not get it and rejection can feel excruciating when you try so hard and inevitably slip up on some important detail.

You lose things, you leave laundry wet in the dryer, you have a long list of unfinished projects and goals that keep getting pushed back. Your sense of time is, well, mysterious. You try incredibly hard to juggle the many simultaneous branches of thought in your head along with mundane details of the day, and feel crushed when you get the message that you are not doing enough, and guilty when the pressure peaks and you lose your temper with your kids or your spouse.

Your self esteem and mental health have taken a hit.

Chunks of time seem to go missing on things that hook your attention but aren’t meaningful to you, which impacts your self-trust and sense of autonomy. You are anxious about what balls are going to drop and what details you’re going to miss next, and the more stressed you get, the more balls you drop and the more you get caught in vices like impulsive shopping, snacking, and procrastination.

Your inner critic is strong, constantly reminding you about the schedule mix-ups, the unproductive days, the delays in communicating with loved ones, and the distance between your values, visions, and your daily life. But what if you have been trying more than hard enough, just not in ways that really support your specific needs and draw on your unique strengths?

Your brain is not wrong. You can harness its gifts to create the life you are here for.

I help people untangle negative messaging accrued in a culture designed for neurotypicals, and help them find ways to live well and contribute meaningfully within environments not necessarily designed for them. I hold and reflect the belief that ADHD is not a deficit, that neurodiversity is natural and needed in this world, and it comes with incredible gifts.

Together we celebrate your strengths, values, and interests, and all that you already accomplish, and the gifts of ADHD. We find ways to create a custom-built life using tools catered to make use of your makeup, and to identify and set up strategies for backing you up in arenas that need support so you can work smarter instead of harder.

As an ADHDer myself, I bring classic ADHD gifts to bear on the path: intuition, creativity, willingness to meet with intensity, ability to hold complexity and make surprising connections, and a lense for justice and relational care. I can keep up with you in your expansive and divergent thinking, and support you in bringing it all back to center, so you can let your big beautiful ideas branch and sparkle, and you can also choose when you want to come back home to your core, your body, your life on the ground, and bring your visions into real tangible form. 

It’s time to begin living the life you were made for.

Take the step today toward aligning with what matters to you while also having a more balanced and easeful life.

Click here to schedule your free 15- minute phone consultation for ADHD therapy in California. My other specialties include grief and traumatic loss, and psychedelic integration.